On Saturday, I was out for a nice long run. I was running on a very wide sidewalk. A man was standing on the grass area off the sidewalk with 2 small dogs. As I ran by, one of the dogs jumped out and bit my leg. It was a considerable bite, and I was angry. I stopped, and after I expressed my anger towards the man, I asked for his address and phone number, so I could get assurance that his dogs were vaccinated. He refused, and did not take any responsibility or accountability.
On the remainder of my run home, I was caught in a place of blame and forgiveness. I would forgive him, and then blame him for his lack of caring and accountability. As the day wore on, and I looked at my injured leg, I continued to debate my feelings. I thought, “if I had my phone I would take his picture, and blah, blah, blah.” This experience has been a good lesson for me practicing forgiveness. I’ll be frank. I’m not there yet. I rationalize it by saying, “if this was me, I would give someone my phone number, I would be more responsible.” But that is not what forgiveness is about. So this experience has made me wonder, what other feelings am I holding onto? How about you? How do you practice forgiveness? I am seeing not being able to forgive affects my life. It takes me away from being in the moment, of loving others, of having fun, of being focused. This has been a great lesson for me, and I am excited to share it with you. I would love to learn from you, and your successes. What are your keys to forgiveness? What barriers do you face when you are choosing between blame and forgiveness?
Lastly, I just saw this quote, “Forgiveness doesn’t excuse their actions. Forgiveness stops their actions from destroying your heart.” OUCH!